I have had some rude droplets of comments from people in my social media DMs over the past few weeks about how comes, if I am doing nothing but being bedbound, have I not actually had a book published yet?
There are many factors actually, one of which is that I have chosen not to approach an agent or a publisher just yet because I am reluctant to send my current projects unless I am half way through its second book or third book– because half of my current projects are series. This is to cut down pressure for me when I do get published as I know how quickly the publishing industry likes to move when they think they are onto a good thing. I am not being cocky and thinking I am a good thing, I just like being prepared, I am a former Girl Guide remember!
The other thing is that, I was bedbound because I was sick, remember? Not because I like laying down all the while doing nothing!
By sick I don’t mean just lying down tired and being all BLEURGH and woe is me! I mean actually being sick, with continuously streaming head colds, continuous bouts of coughing and sneezing, where even reading a book for more than five minutes is often disturbed with my attempt at mucus removal! So when you consider that, how can I continuously type without being jerked out of my focus because of yet another round of ten sneezes or another asthma attack bought on by a lengthy coughing fit?
This was my life right up until Easter 2022, because I learned half of my symptoms were bought on by food allergies I didn’t know I had. I thought my problems were gluten, eggs and lactose and for a while some symptoms were relieved, but it relieved hugely when I learned and realised it was soy/soya I have a massive problem with – so I did an elimination diet and that helped tremendously!
However, I have airborne allergies too, so I often have sniffles still. Not as bad as before Easter I grant you and since Easter in fact I have been a lot more productive in doing my blog than ever before!
Reading my blog with an unbroken streak of 246 days of posting is testament to that, you’ve been reading me daily for that length of time! So you can more or less see, that there is a vast improvement in my health because I am able to do that!
However, as for my stories I was producing very good content and writing a lot per day until a family member died a few months back and the families’ mental health took a turn for the worse, I have had a break in a long term relationship and a bunch of other things, including insomnia has got in the way. General life stuff, it happens to us all!
I don’t need to explain myself to you, other than tell you – I write when I can. My ultimate goal in life is to find happiness, love and peace – it is not my biggest goal to become published, like you may think! It’s in my top five goals, but it is not my ultimate goal!
Writing is not what drives me in life day to day. I love writing, don’t get me wrong, but not enough to set my other things aside.
My focus is not purely writing, my focus is purely on finding happiness, love and peace at last!
Everything else can come after that! Happiness and love are my main goals in life, as well as health on all levels.
If I am not producing what you think is enough material for you to feast your eyes upon, you will understand that for me, I have other things on my mind right now. When I want to write, I will and I will do so a lot!
But at the moment I am busy honing in skills, getting myself together, preparing myself for something big in my personal life – something that I can be proud of and happy with. I have never really been career focused, always personal happiness and family first.
I have differences of opinion to some of you, to some of you who have criticised me in my DMs you need to understand that your goals and my goals are vastly different – to you, your writing is everything and everything else is secondary to you – for me, happiness and family matters are my main focus.
Don’t judge me.
Stop with the “I am better than you because I am more focused” crap, because to me it is crap, because you have chosen to misunderstand me and my entire life by judging me as being the same as you!
I am not.
I am me.
I am The Tardy Creative – realise that as my brand, it’s my name for a reason!
Thank you for reading!