He knows now

Well, something has occurred here today.

We have had a message today from Henry’s therapist.

I hate to say it, but I was proven right after all of these years that my Henry is actually on the autistic spectrum, I have known it since he was 5yrs old because I used to work with the mentally disabled when I lived in London; Paul however denied that his Henry is one of those.

Well today, Paul got a message from Henry’s therapist, expecting to hear a bipolar diagnosis, when in fact he is actually now officially autistic instead.

I am relieved that after all these years I have been proven right, because over the years I have tried to train Paul that raising an autistic child is very different to raising a regular child and I had tried to show him how to get the best from Henry – but Paul felt that it was unnecessary to change the way he parents with our boy, because Henry is not like that.

I am hoping the behaviours between my boys will change dramatically now that I have been proven right and hopefully Paul will become open to change.

I knew since Henry was 5yrs old because Henry had delayed speech and he has obsessions with lists, piles and grouping things.  He also used to walk on tippy-toes a lot and he has always been flappy, like a little chick.  He does better with a tight schedule and needs to constantly be on the go all of the time, doing something – but it has to be scheduled.  Outside of a tight schedule Henry’s behaviour becomes erratic, unpredictable and disharmonic.

Henry couldn’t speak in small sentences until he was 5yrs old, he would say things like, red ball play, rather than, let’s play with the red ball.

But as I have said in previous posts, my opinions about the boy is easily dismissed.

I am just really hurt right now that Paul dismissed my professional opinion over the opinion of certified practitioners, I know fully well that I can tell Paul how we should be handling Henry right now – but he will probably dismiss me again and again until the professionals tells him the same thing.  What upsets me is Paul usually lacks the grace to apologise when he is wrong.

So there you go, that’s what’s happening today, here in the family – we’ve also found out his school may be going bankrupt too, ho-hum.

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