My personal development is increasing exponentially in the past few weeks, particularly in regards to mental strength and adaptability.
My thoughts are starting to change about myself and other people, since I have decided to follow the flow of things and look at things from a different perspective; a perspective of a separate person to myself.
Basically, I have started to detach myself from my own thoughts, because my thoughts aren’t really my own, but the toxic memories of what other people have put into my mind about myself and others.
In other words, my negative thoughts about myself and other people are purely quotes from my suppressors reliving themselves in my mind, time and time again. The only way around this, is to decide to detach myself from those normal thought patterns and regard myself as a separate being – a being I love and want to protect and nurture.
I have mentioned before, that Mel Robbins has said that when you look in the mirror you need to see your own reflection as a person you love, you need to high five yourself and treat yourself with the love, respect and kindness you would, a relative that is close to you!
This seems to be working a lot for me, also my self-value is changing.
I still have a long way to go in regards to my confidence, but I am no longer pushing my toxic quotes onto what I think others may or may not be thinking about me.
For example; I feel I am too ugly and fat to be loved by someone genuine. This is a toxic quote from many people in society that I have put into my own head and believed for many years. However, many large people and people who are not aesthetically blessed are deserving of love and are loved by people. So why am I not saying this to myself more often?
I am worthy of love too and I am presuming that the entire world is shallow with this view and it really isn’t.
I should not define myself by my looks, but by who I am inside.
When you detach yourself from your toxic quotes, you begin to see clearly – you begin to see the pain that you are in and you tend to yourself as you would someone you love and support. You would never lie to that person, you love them, you don’t say dishonest things to them to just bolster their confidences if it wasn’t true, would you?
So why should it be any different for us?
Why have we allowed these toxic quotes to brainwash us into believing our self-worth is less than we deserve?
Because we care too much about what other people think!
So we think, it’s all true and it’s not.
Is it fair to believe that someone who is interested in you is really a shallow person with ulterior motives?
Is that a good way to start a new relationship?
No it isn’t, you are judging the new person in your life because of your own insecurities and that is unfair to the both of you!
Detach yourself from your toxic quotes when you identify the negative thoughts about yourself and a new person you believe could be judging you, when you don’t really know it’s a fact or not.
See yourself as an observer of your thoughts and act in accordance to them, as though you are someone you genuinely want to love, support and protect.
These methods are working for me and please believe me when I say, I have had a lot of push and pulling in my head over this, but love is winning as it always does!