TardyCreative.com was named mainly because I realised that although I am a writer and I aspire to someday becoming a selling artist, I knew that I have other interests which can sometimes absorb me!
Especially interests regarding gardening, reading, pets and other matters close to the heart, such as the LGBTQ community and generally defining myself as a person, healing from abuse and having fun!
I had wanted this blog to become a broad outlook about me, this was never meant to be a professional blog in which I will sell my books, because to me, this is a personal blog. When I approach an agent with my work in the future, I will create a professional blog separate but connected to this.
This blog was purely intentionally made to share my life with people and my progressions in my life, including my progression as a creative.
I suffered a lot of abuse from controlling people who moulded me into becoming what THEY wanted; this blog was my attempt at showing the world that I am becoming who I want to become!
Unfortunately until this point, I have done so with some sense of shame and embarrassment.
I have not been confident enough in sharing photographs and things in too many depths, but I am learning to change and I am building confidence, slowly but surely!
Any idea that this was meant to be my actual “Professional” blog is wrong, this is a personal blog, and it always has been!
I am fine tuning myself in various ways in my life at a fast pace, because I am determined that my life really will start at forty, like the old adage says it does!
I need it to work, I need it to happen and I need to stop living in fear!
But ultimately, I need to learn to love myself, be happy in my own skin and I am not. But I am trying my best to change how I see myself and to learn to love the skin I am in!
I am going to be shouting loud and clear about who I am in up and coming posts, but I do not intend to preach and I do not intend to convert, my intentions are to purely and wholly be me, without shame and to share who I am to the world!
Because hardly anyone knows the real me, they just know the trained, tamed version of me that my mother and other abusers have made me into.
The boring me, the monochrome me, the quiet me, the me that is not me… basically. My shadow is more me than me!
So, as I fearfully crawl out of this rock, learning technology as I go my way, I am also learning not to fear being rejected for who I really am by the world I am creeping into!
Hello, I am The Tardy Creative, my real name is Tina, but that is going to change soon to something that is more me, it is something I have always intentionally wanted to do – change my real name.
So I will be forty in October, October the 3rd to be precise and I heard that life begins at forty and I really hope so for me!
I have struggled with two different and very clashing eating disorders in my life, both compulsive eating (when angry, stressed, feeling trapped and bullied) to anorexia and bulimia (when sad, grieving, depressed and sick). However, when I am relaxed and happy and enjoying life, I have been known to forget to eat because I am in the moment, whether or not that is anorexia or not, I don’t quite know, but it’s a funny thing with me!
I have body dysmorphia, I believe I am really hideous, so I don’t like to share images of myself – I am trying to change my perception of myself, by adding pictures of myself here soon and regularly. To see whether or not I am as hideous as I think or not!
Stupid in reflection, because social media is often cruel as it is sometimes kind!
Things most people don’t know about me, is that I am very bisexual or rather pansexual, if I find someone attractive and I get along with them, I will go into a relationship with them, whether man, woman or trans. I have dated Trans men before and ladies, but I was never open about it.
I am also shy about my own crossdressing forays. I love to dress as the young dandy of the late eighteenth century but I am also really into Bohemian and kawaii styles too, I am very eclectic and I live each day differently.
If I could have any magical power I suppose it would be transmogrification, so I can change my looks according to my feelings of the day!
I love to have long hair, but I have alopecia as well as mild trichotillomania (which is triggered when badly stressed or bullied) which is ruining my looks – I have thought about shaving my hair to a very short pixie cut or crew cut and wearing wigs, but I am frightened of doing that, in case of abuse and attack and becoming unattractive to new relationships in my life.
My alopecia is due to malnutrition as I have a digestive disease and pernicious anaemia where I am not able to absorb B vitamins and biotin in particular.
Despite not wearing makeup much and having a limited wardrobe, I am very fashion conscious and love the fashion industry and watching Vogue on YouTube etc. I have never been educated in how to use make-up by anyone, except the videos I see online; I am really quite a novice. I am not confident about knowing what I am doing and this too is something I want to change!
I am not known for wearing dresses, but I am getting into them these days! I never liked wearing trousers, but I did it because I was told to for so many years, that wearing them became a habit!
I always liked maxi-dresses and skirts and certain styles and colours and up until recently I have been mostly black (influenced as a perfect choice by my mother) and occasionally pink (chosen by Henry and Paul).
I like loud and bright looking clothing and I was told in order to wear bright garish clothing, I need to be a super confident, loud and garish person! If I am not that, then I will be humiliated by the public and picked on! So I have avoided it.
This too, will change!
I always felt that nobody is interested in somebody like me, no one wants to hear what someone like me wants to say – but as I am learning more about the social media, the more I have learned that you become who you are, share what you are and you will find your tribe, you will find others like you and the world will become smaller and more inclusive for you as an individual.
Gone are the days of true isolation.
This is why I want to harness using technology and social media, I need to find out for myself that I truly am not alone, that there are people out there just like me, who think like me and like the things I like too – that I am not a weird little thing that needs to be hidden in case it is destroyed by society, like I have always been told I am!
I have the right to exist how I want to exist, so does everybody! So I am going to fight for it and become exactly who I want to be!
You realise of course I am shitting brick as I am saying this? Because now I have told this to you all, I have to now actually act upon it… don’t I?
Well, I’ll try…
Thanks for reading!